Exploring the Effects of Soul Ties on Your Life

Posted on March 2nd, 2026. 

Some relationships don’t fade neatly into the past. Even after time passes, certain connections still feel present in your thoughts, your emotions, and can affect the way you approach life and relationships. 

These lasting bonds can often be soul ties, a term that points to spiritual and emotional attachments formed through an intense and strong connection. Soul Ties can be formed between any two people regardless of them having a healthy, romantic, platonic, violent, abusive, long-term, or short-lived connection. 

This can be helpful in understanding why some relationships are easy to release, and others feel harder to move on from. Why can we walk away from some people without barely a memory of them, but others don't stop swimming around in our heads? 

This is a serious matter. The wounds, chains, binds, oaths, agreements, etc. that bind us to another must be dealt with. Our lives and relationships are severely impacted when we neglect to deal with our spiritual baggage. Are there any soul ties in your life keeping you bound today?

What Are Soul Ties? 

Soul ties are when a deep connection forms between two people through emotional, spiritual, or physical closeness. These connections are so strong they tie one soul to another, creating lasting bonds that can only be broken with Jesus Christ. These ties aren’t limited to romance, even though romantic relationships tend to create the strongest bonds. 

You know you have a soul tie if you have continuous dreams of someone you once had a strong connection with, you are always thinking of a past relationship regardless of romantic or not, and if you feel a strong pull towards anyone that won't break. These are just a few common ways to know if a soul tie is present but there are many other ways to discern a soul tie in your life.

There are two types of soul ties. Godly and unGodly. Godly soul ties are formed between marriage partners that were ordained to marry by God. If you are married to your kingdom spouse, then you both will form a soul tie. Other Godly soul ties are parent/child, sibling, spiritual teacher/disciple, spiritual parent/child, and destiny helpers. Godly soul ties bring stability, peace, love, and move things forward in BOTH peoples lives. Most importantly, they are created by God Himself.

Ungodly soul ties are the opposite of Godly soul ties. They are formed by two people who were not supposed to form a relationship. These relationships are usually manipulated and formed by satan. This enables satan to cause delay, distraction, and open doors through pain, betrayal, and unforgiveness. 

Here are a few common ways ungodly soul ties are formed:  

• Shared vulnerability during grief, trauma, or crisis 
• Physical intimacy that deepens emotional attachment quickly 
• Repeated emotional dependence, especially during loneliness 
• Spiritual agreement, in a negative way, through oaths, covenants, contracts, and agreements

If the concept resonates with you, the next step is discernment. If you haven't had contact with someone in a long time but keep thinking of them, and those thoughts are coupled with negative feelings, then you have an ungodly soul tie. You need the help of Jesus Christ to break it.

Recognizing the Impact of Soul Ties in Relationships 

If we don't heal from the wounds that allowed ungodly soul ties to form, we will live in cycles of unhealthy relationships. We will notice the same patterns repeating in every relationship, especially romantic ones. Healing the wounds are nonnegotiable if we truly desire freedom from these cycles of trauma.

Any wound you didn't heal from is going to resurface again. These unhealed wounds are bound to spiritually "reinfect". Imagine a wound in the natural. If you don't treat it, clean it, and allow it to heal properly, it's going to keep causing issues. It will reinfect and cause greater and lasting damage. It is the same idea with trauma wounds in the soul. 

What does that look like though? 

Below are signs often associate with ungodly soul ties:  

• Unable to let someone go or leave even when the relationship is unhealthy
• Intense and illogical feelings of jealousy, possessiveness, and control
• Obsessing over a partner, unable to have alone time or take healthy time apart
• "Roller Coaster" relationship. Emotions lack stability with highs and lows

Godly soul ties are going to manifest differently. There will be trust, respect, and healthy boundaries. The fruit of the Spirit will naturally be present in abundance. This is because the relationship was planted by God.

Healing and Breaking Free from Soul Ties 

Healing from unhealthy soul ties is both spiritual and practical. Many people start by acknowledging what the bond has been costing them emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. If you’re asking how to break soul ties, the first step is clarity: naming the connection, naming the patterns, and naming the ways it still shows up in your love life. Clarity doesn’t mean obsessing over the past. It means telling the truth so healing has something real to work with. 

Prayer is central for many believers because it shifts the process from self-effort to surrender. Some people find it helpful to pray out loud, specifically asking for wisdom, cleansing, and the strength to release what’s no longer fruitful. Others journal their prayers to make the process more concrete and consistent. 

Forgiveness often becomes part of the healing path, even when the relationship involved real pain. Forgiveness doesn’t excuse harm, and it doesn’t require reconnection. It’s a decision to stop letting bitterness act like a cord that keeps the bond in place. That can include forgiving the other person, forgiving yourself, or both. 

Healthy boundaries help support the spiritual work. If a tie remains active because contact is constant, the emotional reinforcement continues. For some people, the right boundary is reduced contact. For others, it’s no contact, at least for a season. Boundaries can also include removing reminders, limiting social media exposure, or changing routines that keep the emotional attachment triggered. 

Here are practical steps that often support the healing process:  

• Write down what the relationship taught you so you can keep the lesson without keeping the attachment 
• Remove repeated triggers, including digital reminders, gifts, photos, and frequent check-ins 
• Ask a trusted mentor or faith leader for prayer support and accountability 
• Build steady routines: scripture reading, worship, counseling, and community connection 

Community support matters, too. Isolation can make a soul tie feel stronger, especially when the past becomes your main emotional reference point. Trusted friends and spiritual mentors can help you stay grounded when you feel pulled backward. Their presence can also remind you that your identity is bigger than one connection, and your future is not limited by one season. 

Healing doesn’t always happen overnight, and that’s okay. The goal is progress that lasts. As you continue to pray, forgive, and set boundaries, you create space for healthier love, clearer discernment, and relationships that support your calling rather than compete with it. 

Related: Why Spiritual Growth Requires Both Revelation and Discipline 

A Hope-Filled Path Forward 

Soul ties, whether healthy or unhealthy, can shape the way we love, trust, and open our hearts. When we understand what’s influencing our attachment, we can respond with wisdom instead of repeating old patterns. 

At Kenyah Corps, we support people seeking prophetic healing and deliverance, especially when spiritual bonds and emotional weight feel intertwined. You don’t have to carry old connections into new seasons. With prayer, discernment, and the right support, you can release what’s heavy and build a love life rooted in peace, maturity, and faith-led connection. 

Discover the power of prophetic healing and deliverance and restore your emotional freedom.  

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